They look so happy

Yeah, this thread is pretty puny compared to the Mother of All Commentroversies, the kitteh-eating monster-baby.

Anyway, I found this little gem on my Chicklit forum rules:

You have NO POINT if you can’t make it respectfully.

So, um, what’s going on in the froggie thread?

http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b33/TrespassersW/CatThread.jpg

Funny…I think I live in a weird zone or something. Married 7 years, no kids, two cats. And not one single person has ever commented on it. Heck, both my mother and mother in law tell me they aren’t ready to be grandmas!

And I do know what it can be like. I’m Pagan in a monotheistic world. Those nuffing here..take it from me. You cannot ask/demand respect for your choice and in the same breath smash someone elses. The two cancel each other out and you end up where you started.

yeah, Mitsu. i’m with you all the way. as someone who’s not totally into babies, but has never thought to use buzzwords like “childfree”, i’ve always felt in the minority but was kind of shocked during this thread to see how vehement those who share my status can be. we’ve all had that potential in-law or nosey aquaintance submit us to anything from subtle pressure to downright insults. but i don’t see most of the parents commenting here doing that and it’s too bad to see such defensiveness and ill-will directed at people whose choice to have children is just as valid — i would say just as “good” — as our choice not to, and who are only asking for civility.

plus the picture rocks.

On the other hand, I also feel compelled to mention that those of you with children (or who may be childless but coo and goo over the sight of a baby) might not realize how many judgmental and unkind comments we who don’t want babies have to deal with. I’ve had a lot of nasty things said to me, including that I’m “not a real woman,” “not really an adult,” and even, “not quite fully human.” That does get old.

Thank you, Pheas, for putting my thoughts into words. I’m amazed at people’s endless willingness to get all worked up over cute pictures on the internet. As I mentioned earlier, I’m not a big baby-lover (although this picture is adorable), but I can’t see that as a reason to spew negativity all over such an innocuous site. I’ve seen many pictures of babies here that I don’t find cute, and I simply don’t comment. This one is very cute, I don’t mind saying so at all. This picture is so sweet that the negative comments are really kind of sickening. If nothing else, this has really opened my eyes to how upset some people get over the sight of an infant- and here all along I thought I was such a big baby-hater. I guess not. I guess I’m just really a mild-to-moderate baby-disliker. And in the case of this particular baby picture, the more I look at it the more I like it. I mean, aren’t we all here because we like animals? Just think, this little guy might grow up to find a cure for Feline Leukemia or Parvo or something. I fail to see anything but good in this picture.

One more little note-let: this so-called controversial thread is still only a small fraction of the size of that *other* kitty-baby situation. (1200+ comments and CLOSED)

anner — I share your feelings. For my own part, which is all I control, I will commit to being polite, kind, and positive on this site.

I am a guest here, and I enjoy the wonderful pictures, captions, and banter entirely at the pleasure of the owner, who owes me nothing at all. I feel it’s the absolute least I can do to be the sort of guest who might be invited back.

Smiling Lurker – what a great attitude you have, reacting to difficulty with positivity. i hope you and your husband can be reunited soon. please thank him for what he does.

yeah, these controversies are a real downer, and difficult not to get involved in. even when i don’t participate, i still end up feeling really bad just reading all of it. it might be time to avoid the comment section for a while!

bebeh say, “squeeeeeeeeeeee!”
kitteh say, “prrrrrrrrrrrrr”